I was talking to a mom of three recently. Her older two are twins. She was telling me how unexpectedly hard her second, one-baby pregnancy was. She had thought it would be a breeze, since she had already gestated twins. And, she acknowledged, it *was* easier, but it was still pregnancy. It was still hard.Continue reading “Just because something isn’t as hard”
I am a big believer in action and change, but some moments (and days, and weeks) call for coping and staying the course. Be gentle with yourselves.
Be easy. We sang these words during my monthly group sing last weekend. And it struck me how used I am to making myself uncomfortable in order to make others more comfortable. And how much I want to challenge that pattern and claim my own ease as having value, too. As a woman and mother,Continue reading “Be easy”
Kids have big feelings. A lot. I feel like I should have a lot of skills for dealing with them since I trained as a therapist in grad school. And maybe I do. I can name feelings. I can employ calm down techniques. I can help problem solve. I can distract if need be. WhatContinue reading “Feelings are tunnels”
When I wonder why I ever wanted to become a mom, I put my cheek against my kid’s cheek and it helps a little. And it helps even more to remember I’m not alone. That feeling is normal. And it will pass.
Keep fighting. 💪💙
We have to make the change we want to see. Vote. (Please) ✔️🌊
If you don’t choose, someone else will. And we need wise and loving folks to choose. Here’s the thing: The current administration blatantly makes stuff up and foments hate, and those behaviors are hurting real human beings. You don’t have to think the alternative is perfect to agree that it creates an environmentContinue reading “If you don’t choose”
Note to self: Sleep more. I know everything is better when I get more of it, so why don’t I sleep more? There are tons of reasons, but the biggest right now is that I’m exchanging sleep for things that add seasoning to the sauce of my life. I trade sleep for time withContinue reading “Sleep more”
I have been listening to the @audible_com audiobook of Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by @enagoski. I have 29 minutes and 46 seconds left, and I can tell I am loving this book because I am delaying listening to that last bit. I just don’t wantContinue reading “What if you felt less guilty”