We all need quiet sometimes

We all need quiet sometimes. ⁣

I wrote this while my 1-year-old was walking around and banging a drum and my 3-year-old was singing Moana music at the top of his lungs on the day after Halloween. ⁣🎼🎤🥁

I did not know how much I need quiet to recharge until after I had kids. Perhaps that was poor timing, but it’s what I got. 🤷‍♀️ My kids can *seem* like they don’t need quiet, but they do. People are never static – we ebb and flow and need both noise and quiet. That balance makes sense to me. The hard part for me is gauging how much noise and how much quiet I need (and my kids need). Unlike, say, sleep where I can just look at a clock and have a sense of how much I’m getting, noise is more amorphous. There is always some amount of sound, and I don’t carry a sound-level meter on my person (dibs on personal sound-level meters as the next trend in wearables!). Sound is not black-and-white, and I can’t rely on external cues to tell me what to do. I have to trust myself and my own experience. Which is…hard. But I’m working on it. ⁣

we all need quiet sometimes

Published by Emily P.G. Erickson

Emily P.G. Erickson is a writer with a master's degree in psychology. Her helpful, science-backed journalism and essays about mental health, mindfulness, and motherhood have appeared in The New York Times, WIRED, Romper, Elemental, and elsewhere. You can find the latest from Emily at www.emilypgerickson.com.

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