We teach our girls to be kind and our boys to go after what they want. This is an imbalance, and as a feminist mama, I want to do my part to correct it. But, of course, the solution isn’t to teach our girls to be less kind or our boys to not go after what they want. It’s to be deliberate about rebalancing these skill sets. So a big thing for me is teach my boys the skills of emotional labor. My hope is that they can share the load and notice this often-invisible work. Paramount of these skills is to be kind. Because kindness matters. So much. Sometimes I think it’s the only thing that does.
Published by Emily P.G. Erickson
Emily P.G. Erickson is a writer with a master's degree in psychology. Her helpful, science-backed journalism and essays about mental health, mindfulness, and motherhood have appeared in The New York Times, WIRED, Romper, Elemental, and elsewhere. You can find the latest from Emily at www.emilypgerickson.com. View more posts