“It’s ok not to do everything.” While some people have a Year of Yes, this has been my Year of No. The older I get, the more I really understand how my time and energy are finite, and I can only spend them on certain things and not on others. I think used to believe that if I were just better, smarter, faster, I could do it all. So why say no? Needing to say no was admitting a personal failing. But needing to say no is a feature, not a bug. The truth is, I will not be able to do everything there is to do in my one life. Neither will you. Even Beyoncé can’t do everything. This means there must be things I say no to. So, I want to make sure I’m saying no to the things I mean to be saying no to. The trick is making sure “no” is intentional and not because I’m falling apart at the seams because I’ve overextended myself. It’s ok not to do everything. It’s more than ok. It is required.
Published by Emily P.G. Erickson
Emily P.G. Erickson is a freelance writer specializing in mental health and parenting. She has written for popular digital publications, including Everyday Health, Health, The New York Times, Parents, Romper, Verywell Mind, WIRED, and more. Emily is a professional member of the National Association of Science Writers (NASW), the American Society of Journalists and Authors (ASJA), and the Association of Health Care Journalists (AHCJ). Previously, Emily researched PTSD for the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs and earned a master's in psychology. You can find the latest from Emily at www.emilypgerickson.com. View more posts