“It’s ok not to do everything.” While some people have a Year of Yes, this has been my Year of No. The older I get, the more I really understand how my time and energy are finite, and I can only spend them on certain things and not on others. I think used to believe that if I were just better, smarter, faster, I could do it all. So why say no? Needing to say no was admitting a personal failing. But needing to say no is a feature, not a bug. The truth is, I will not be able to do everything there is to do in my one life. Neither will you. Even Beyoncé can’t do everything. This means there must be things I say no to. So, I want to make sure I’m saying no to the things I mean to be saying no to. The trick is making sure “no” is intentional and not because I’m falling apart at the seams because I’ve overextended myself. It’s ok not to do everything. It’s more than ok. It is required.
Published by Emily P.G. Erickson
Emily P.G. Erickson is a writer with a master's degree in psychology. Her helpful, science-backed journalism and essays about mental health, mindfulness, and motherhood have appeared in The New York Times, WIRED, Romper, Elemental, and elsewhere. You can find the latest from Emily at www.emilypgerickson.com. View more posts